Ever since I got into a relationship, I've noticed how so many other people are in a relationship too. It's like everywhere I turn, a couple's canoodling. Kinda gross but I have no room to talk.
I have so many girlfriends that always say "I wish I had a boyfriend" and I was one of those girls too. I thought that I had everything in line and that the only thing I needed left was a guy to complete me. Oh how completely wrong I was. As much as I love my boyfriend, life was much easier being single. I felt in control. So to all my lovely single pringles out there, here's what you should be enjoying now before you get into a relationship: from someone who just recently got into one after being single for two years.
It's All About You
You don't have to worry about anyone other than you. Whatever you do: go out for the night, hang out with someone, or think the future. You don't have to worry about how someone else would feel. When I was single I'd go out almost every weekend. I'd be more open to different opportunities; I wouldn't be influnced to do something because of my feelings for someone.
More Time With Friends
The most common advice for teenagers getting into a relationship is to not put your boyfriend before your friends. "Sisters Before Misters" they'd say because when you two break up, guess who'll be there to comfort you? Your girlfriends. Rather then going out on dates and texting all the time, you'll have more time to spend with your friends and build stronger friendships that would most likely last longer than your relationship.
More Money For You
Some couples are very good with financial communication. But lets face it, you're bound to spend money on your S.O. Birthday gifts, Christmas gifts, Valentine's Day presents, and don't get me started with anniversary gifts. This is especially frustrating when you don't have a job yet. When you're single, the money you earn will be money you can spend on yourself.
You're In Charge Of Your Happiness
No boyfriend? No problems.
Being in a relationship can be such an emotional rollercoaster sometimes. And while I have very good communication with my boyfriend about my feelings, there's no doubt that he makes me upset at times. When you're in a relationship, everything your significant other does can affect your mood. That's why I alway stress about being happy with yourself before you try to be happy with someone else.
That's why I tell people to be cautious about going into a relationship with someone who might not be emotionally stable because you might just make it worse.
Finding yourself, by yourself.
Your teenage years and even most of your 20's will be dedicated on finding yourself. Finding what you like in people and things. Being single most of these years will guarantee that you'll find yourself. Who you really are. Not who your boyfriend/girlfriend wants you to be. Being in a relationship can very much influnce who you are, what you like, and what you do.
So many family members always emphasis the need of focusing on school. To get into a good college and building a life for yourself. Without good communication, a relationship can often get you sidetracked. This is one of my biggest problems, something I really need to work on. Texting your S.O rather than doing homework or prioritizing your relationship before your education. "Don't date in highschool, focus on your schoolwork" many teens would hear. Succeeding in highschool is so important, don't let your feelings for someone else distract you from achieving your goals.
RIANNE Del Carmen
My biggest goal in life is to just live it. To enjoy every moment and find the beauty in all things. So I write to inspire others. Not to just enjoy life but to better themselves. To become a better student, a happier person, and a more loving human. With tips and stories, I hope to help you through all the rough edges.