Being a 15-year-old girl intrested in going into medicine, I have researched every possible senario that I could encounter to better prepare myself if the senario happens.
"Will I be able to raise a dog through out this process"
"How many times a year would I be able to come home and visit family?"
"Do I get summer vactions during medical school?"
"When will it be the best time to start a family?"
The answers are.. yes, at least twice a year, not the typical summer vacation you're use to in high school, and well there's never a good time...
I have always been an over-thinker. I always say that it's best to over-think and be prepared for a situation rather than under-think and feel hopless. But with the topic of when I'll be able to start a family, I just feel like it's a lose-lose situation.
The transition from high school to college is bad enough now add a crying infant in the equation while studying for your MCAT and trying to keep a competitive GPA of at least 3.6.
If you're lucky enough to have family living in the same city as you who'll be able to take care of the baby when you need to study or go to class then it's perfect. If not, child care would cost you a pretty dime. Don't forget about the medical bills and cost to actually keep the baby healthy and well cared for, that's well over a part-time salary.
Gap Year Between College and Med School:
If you want a baby young, taking a gap year between college and medical school is probably your best choice. With this, you'll be able to take care of yourself (by not being so stressed out) as well as the baby before and after birth. You'll be with the baby for the first few months of their life which some may believe is the most important. Having a gap year to have a child is much simplier when it comes to maternity leave. Down side? You'll be a year behind your goal of being in medicine; this means a year behind training and a year behind a physican-income, you'll have to find a source of income to support your family (most likely working part time), you'll apply for medical school during your fourth year, and most would argue that having to take care of a baby full-time means losing the "student" mindset and going back to school (especially into medical school) may be difficult to adjust back into the student life.
I've been best friends with Jose since 5th grade. He's seen me through all my awkward phases and my weird fashion choices. I've grown up with this guy. It's always laughs and having a good time when I'm with him. He pays for my food when we go out to lunch or dinner and most importantly he's my camera guy. But we do not see eachother than anything more than family.
But you two aren't blood related, so he can still fall in love with you."
My dad is not blood related to me, my family memebers and cousins from his side are not blood related to me. Yes blood is blood but throughout my entire life, I was taught that love shouldn't be just restricted to blood reletives and significant others. The feelings I have for my cousins are the same feelings I have for my home girl Chelsea, the same feeling I have for Jose. He's annoying and has way too much girl drama but I'd take a bullet for him.
How does Shaun feel about you being so close with another guy?"
Shaun was definetly a little cautious in the begining. He has a girl best friend also but they're not as close as Jose and I so we did have to talk and make sure everything's cleared out. In his word's here's what he had to say about my friendship with Jose:
So yes, guys and girls can be best friends. There needs to be a clear understanding of no intentions of a romantic relationship and there also needs to be no previous romantic relationships between you two but if they make you happy what's so wrong of being their best friend?
I get asked this a lot.
"What do you want to do with your life?"
"Where do you want to go for college?"
"What's your future plans"
I get very cautious about sharing my future plans because I like to dream big but at the same time I keep my mind open to other doors and opportunities. I change my ideas every other day, I go back and fourth, and my plans might change next week. But with that, I want others to know that it's never too early to think about your future. Keep an mind open, step out of your comfort zone, and don't be afraid to dream big.
Here's my plan. As of now at least.
College and Med School:
I've been looking at going to University of Washington for college. I'm open to universities out of state if they're really good and if they give me good finacial aid but I've always wanted to live in Seattle since I was little. If I got the oppurnity to stay in Univerisity Of Washington to attend medical school then that's be a dream come true. I'd love to stay in Seattle.
I've been really intrested in becoming an Emergency Pediatrican. So I'll be doing a 3 year residency in pedatrics followed by an additonal 3 year fellowship for emergency medicine in pedatrics. I do want to keep an open mind until I actually have to choose. Once I start getting more experience and insights to different specalties, I might change my mind.
I would love to stay in Seattle until I'm done with my fellowship. It's much closer to home and I just love the weather. Once I'm finacially stable and ready to move, I wouldn't mind moving to a more populated city like Los Angeles or San Francisco. I don't like the heat too much so we'll see how I feel. I do plan on traveling around the world, I love learning about new cultures and lifestyles.
Of course I want to have a family. Probably 3 kids, I'd want boys first and then one girl to spoil. When I'll start a family is still in question. Definetly before residency. Most likely during medical school and honestly I wouldn't mind if one of them pops out when I'm 21. With that I'd want at least one dog.
A plan for life can't be set in stone.
I understand that there'll be changes in my life that might make it so I can't do what I want when I want to; but I also know that as long as I'm happy, it's gonna be alright.
In 2014, a total of 249,078 babies were born in the US to women aged 15-19 years.
I know of and am close friends with former and current teenage mothers. I've noticed how common it is for 7th-12th grade girls to have pregnancy scares or even actually getting pregnant. I've been beside my friends nervously waiting for their tests, one too many times. Growing up watching "The Secret Life of an American Teenager" and "Teen Mom" I'd be lying if I said I haven't thought of becoming a young mother myself. Babies are so cute!! But of course that was all crazy talk. From a young age, my mother has always emphasized the importance of waiting until I get my degree and finding the man whom I'll marry. While I have one of those two things checked off, I still have a decade or so ahead of me until I start popping out some chubbsters. But for some high school girls, a precious little angel came into their lives a lot sooner than they expected.
I interviewed Keionna Nash, a student from Evergreen, who recently gave birth to her beautiful daughter Brylee just 3 weeks ago.
How old were you when you had your first child?
K: I conceived at 15 and had her at 16.
What are some of the challenges you’ve faced being a parent at a young age?
K: Being able to support myself and my child. I've had issue’s with friends, and some have left. Keeping up with my school work is the hardest.
What were your goals and future plans before becoming a mother? How does having a child hinder these?
K: My goals included being in the medical field, go to college and also go into cosmetology. I wanted to be someone, I wanted to be successful. Having a child didn't hinder me from that, having a child motivated me 10x more to push myself to give not only her but myself a life we deserve.
What would you tell a teenage girl who is considering becoming a young teen mom?
K: WAIT!!! It's not at all easy, I'll tell you I'm struggling. Taking care of a baby, going to school, being able to keep my grades up, my social life, everything is so much harder and some gets taken away from you. The moment you get pregnant, it's not about you anymore, a baby depends on you. You'll have a child at the right time but for now live it up, be a teenager and have fun! You can always have a baby, but you can't get back time nor your teenage years!
What would you tell teenage girls who are already pregnant?
K: It's gonna be hard. I won't lie. But you can do it. Don't let a child set you back, let that child be the reason you fight harder. It doesn't matter how you got here, you are here. Now it's time to do everything you can to make sure your baby has a good start in life. Your baby doesn't deserve any less simply because you are a teen mom.
Since I'm currently doing a project for my epidemiology class about informing the public about prenatal care, I was curious how educated teenage mothers are of taking care of their body while being pregnant. It seems the younger the girls are of conciving, the less likely they would know about proper prenatal care. I called Keionna and quizzed her on the spot.
Q: Which of the following types of health care providers can provide prenatal care and deliver your baby:
• Family physician
• Certified Nurse Midwife
• All of the above
Correct answer: All of the above.
Keionna's Answer: "Wouldn't it be Obstetrician?"
Q: What toxic substances should pregnant women avoid?
Correct Answer (might include): Fish high in mercury, caffinee, plastics containg BPA, cat feces, lunch meats, and ibuprofen.
Keionna's Answer: Sushi, Parasites, and Caffinee
Q: What prenatal vitamin should a pregnant women take to prevent miscarrage and some birth defects of the brain & spine?
Correct Answer: Folic Acid (Synthetic form of Vitamin B9)
Keionna's Answer: "Oh, I do not know"
Should schools start introducing more prenatal care lessons in their health and medical science classes? Or is that the responsiblity of the teenagers to learn it themselves?
What teenage girl hasn't dreamed about being famous?
Having other people look up to you and feeling like your voice matters.
I sure have.
We live in such a technologically advanced country that interacting with millions of people is possible through so many different social media apps and websites. Youtube, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter.
I've always wanted to go online, on youtube or instagram, and just speak. Have my voice put out there for others to agree or disagree with. I wanted to share my opinons, my stories, and my advice for others.
Growing up as being the eldest child, you pretty much had learn what to do and what not to do through trial and error. I've never had an older cousin I was close with or an older friend who gave me advice about life.
This was especially hard in the begining. Being a 6 year old filipino immigrant, I had to go through school not knowing American culture. I learned how to be a friend, how to be a student, and how to be an athlete through my mistakes. I learned through many failures what it takes to accomplish a goal.
Maybe that's why I've always felt the strong need to help others. Because I know what it feels like not knowing what to do. Not knowing how to study for a test, not knowing how to help a depressed friend, not knowing what to do to have a happy outcome.
When vlogging and being a youtuber became a social epidemic, I was sure that was the best way for me to get my voice out there. I mean how easy is that? Just press record and speak... Well then I realized I didn't have anything intresting to record. So when Ms. Riley, my tenth grade English teacher assigned us a social media unit, I was more than ecstatic. We started off with podcasts and then moved into blogs and after blogs we'd do vlogs. I thought that this was the perfect time to start my vlogging career.
Until we started doing blogs.
I've heard of blogs before, I follow many of them myself. But I never would've thought they were "my type". They just seemed too adult-y. Something my mom would do. I've never been a passionate writer, so I assumed consistantly keeping a blog would've be a pain. And who's really gonna sit down and read my blogs anyways?
But I fell in love with it in the most unexpected time.
I absolutely love blogging. Coming home after a stressful day at school and just share my thoughts with you guys. Knowing my posts can help you guys in some way, shape, or form. So if you've been saying "Oh my gosh, Rianne's post are so lengthy." Then know it's because I'm passionate about each and every topic I blog about. I like taking my time to write, edit, revise, and take photos for each blog post in hopes that it helps you when you need it.
So thank you, for letting my voice be heard.
Rianne Del Carmen
My biggest goal in life is to just live it. To enjoy every moment and find the beauty in all things. So I write to inspire others. Not to just enjoy life but to better themselves. To become a better student, a happier person, and a more loving human. With tips and stories, I hope to help you through all the rough edges.